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Post by Athena on Oct 31, 2003 22:56:14 GMT -5
If you understand all this, then why are you still unhappy? Perhaps you have some sort of unresolved issues with her that still need to be addressed. Or perhaps you are upset becuase you realize that someone you thought was your friend, really wasn't your friend? Am I hitting close to the mark here?
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Post by Crazy4Orlando on Nov 2, 2003 0:21:57 GMT -5
Pixie, it sounds like you still want to be friends with this girl. You may be glad that you broke it off because of her ways that you don't agree with, but I think you still want to be friends with her. Is she trying to act popular and such? In that case, I don't blame you for wanting to call it quits. But if you are holding back and regretting your decision, maybe you guys can work it out. Talk to her, ask her why you sometimes dislike her or her actions (and maybe why she's a bit self-centered and only treats good-looking people nicely, but do this in a calm way or she may flare up). This is a friendship you may still be able to salvage. There's a chance she could change her petty ways.
But also take this into mind. People can change, especially during the teen years. Trust me, a lot of my old friends have. So don't hold her back, because it's not your job to watch out for her. If she can't do that for herself then you've just gotta let her go. Change can seem bad at first, but after a while, when you get used to it (i.e., getting some new friends), soon enough you'll get over it. ;D You may not get over the great friendship you guys had before, but you'll live. ;D Feel better!
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Post by pixiediva24 on Nov 8, 2003 22:02:06 GMT -5
Pixie, it sounds like you still want to be friends with this girl. You may be glad that you broke it off because of her ways that you don't agree with, but I think you still want to be friends with her. Is she trying to act popular and such? In that case, I don't blame you for wanting to call it quits. But if you are holding back and regretting your decision, maybe you guys can work it out. Talk to her, ask her why you sometimes dislike her or her actions (and maybe why she's a bit self-centered and only treats good-looking people nicely, but do this in a calm way or she may flare up). This is a friendship you may still be able to salvage. There's a chance she could change her petty ways. But also take this into mind. People can change, especially during the teen years. Trust me, a lot of my old friends have. So don't hold her back, because it's not your job to watch out for her. If she can't do that for herself then you've just gotta let her go. Change can seem bad at first, but after a while, when you get used to it (i.e., getting some new friends), soon enough you'll get over it. ;D You may not get over the great friendship you guys had before, but you'll live. ;D Feel better! Thanks C4O...She is very self centered...she even tryed out for cheerleading. I told he good luck and was very nice about it. I don't think it's just her. All my old friends are the type of ppl that talk about each other and others behind their back. I haven't really talked to them in a week I feel kinda free from drama, but the only problem with that is that when they have enimiems they tend to spread rumors...and sh** like that...So I don't want them to hate me so I'm just playing it cool for a while.I'm also having boy trubles... We'll talk about that later..Thank you soo much for the addvice I love you guys..
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Post by Athena on Nov 8, 2003 22:24:52 GMT -5
Thanks C4O...She is very self centered...she even tryed out for cheerleading. I told he good luck and was very nice about it. I don't think it's just her. All my old friends are the type of ppl that talk about each other and others behind their back. I haven't really talked to them in a week I feel kinda free from drama, but the only problem with that is that when they have enimiems they tend to spread rumors...and sh** like that...So I don't want them to hate me so I'm just playing it cool for a while.I'm also having boy trubles... We'll talk about that later..Thank you soo much for the addvice I love you guys.. I am sorry that you feel low right now. This girl sounds quite selfish if you ask me, and you are well done by getting rid of her. *hugs* I hope you feel better soon. And trust me, whatever problems you have with a guy, they can all be resolved somehow. Just remember that we all love you
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Post by pixiediva24 on Nov 8, 2003 22:59:19 GMT -5
Thanks Babe. You all are the best. I'm trying to get this guy out of my head.It just doesn't seem to be working..I don't know how to stop! Hating him doesn't help and likeing him more dosen't either lol. See I have every class but one with this kid....and during marching season i'd see him like all the time. Only now..he has a girls friend and I don't want to get between them. We used to be like best friends and he even knew that i liked him. I'm distancing myself from him so i don't get hurt.Is that ok??
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Post by Athena on Nov 8, 2003 23:09:07 GMT -5
Thanks Babe. You all are the best. I'm trying to get this guy out of my head.It just doesn't seem to be working..I don't know how to stop! Hating him doesn't help and likeing him more dosen't either lol. See I have every class but one with this kid....and during marching season i'd see him like all the time. Only now..he has a girls friend and I don't want to get between them. We used to be like best friends and he even knew that i liked him. I'm distancing myself from him so i don't get hurt.Is that ok?? Wow, that is actually pretty scary becase it sounds exactly like my situation. Marching band and all. Umm, is his girlfriend in marching band? Just curious because if not, you will have a great chance to get to be friends with him again. You know how it is, long hours on the bus rides and in the stands with not many people to talk to (boy, don't you just LOVE marching band : . All I can say from my experiance is that he may have gotten a girlfriend to make you want him even more. To play Keep Away in a manner of speaking. Or he might have been moving to fast or something. If you two really have a lot in common and are great together than it stands to reason that eventually you will get together. Of course, this guy could be a total pain in the arse, and just being selfish and enjoy watching you squirm or something *shrugs*. The main thing I can say about this is to have patience (yeah, don't you hate when people say this) but it is true (god, now I am moralizing). Anhoo, if it is 'truly meant to be' then you will get together. If not, *shrugs* life is full of suprises and chances, thats what life is (ain't it a pain). You can be trampled on, or you can seize a chance by the horns and run with it to the ground
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Post by pixiediva24 on Nov 8, 2003 23:29:09 GMT -5
Wow, that is actually pretty scary becase it sounds exactly like my situation. Marching band and all. Umm, is his girlfriend in marching band? Just curious because if not, you will have a great chance to get to be friends with him again. You know how it is, long hours on the bus rides and in the stands with not many people to talk to (boy, don't you just LOVE marching band : . All I can say from my experiance is that he may have gotten a girlfriend to make you want him even more. To play Keep Away in a manner of speaking. Or he might have been moving to fast or something. If you two really have a lot in common and are great together than it stands to reason that eventually you will get together. Of course, this guy could be a total pain in the arse, and just being selfish and enjoy watching you squirm or something *shrugs*. The main thing I can say about this is to have patience (yeah, don't you hate when people say this) but it is true (god, now I am moralizing). Anhoo, if it is 'truly meant to be' then you will get together. If not, *shrugs* life is full of suprises and chances, thats what life is (ain't it a pain). You can be trampled on, or you can seize a chance by the horns and run with it to the ground lol it's all about the bus ride. I think this crush I have even started on the bus.lol Truth or dare anyone lol. ;)I was dared to kiss him.it wasn't french or anything...I hadn't even had my first kiss then(that was june). But my first kiss came shartly after that.And thank god no she's not in the band.I sometimes think he doesn't like me because i'm not white . I'm half and half. white and afro. Before he got together with this chick we were on a roll...he held my hand while we were watching a movie in American lit. we were almost always close. But know i feel like he's just using me. Latley it's been "hey bean will you carry this for me to our nect class...?" and sh** like that. I tryed to be mean nd say no, but I can't lose this guy.I'd hate myself if I wasn't his friend. I want him sooo bad. Don't you hate those..things that you can't have??!!! I think he's only going out with this chick for a piece of a**. You know how guy teens are.
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Post by Crazy4Orlando on Nov 9, 2003 1:48:47 GMT -5
Well, pixie, my advice would be to take notice of other guys. You never know, the perfecet BF could be right under your nose, and you wouldn't even know it because of this jerk who just wants a piece of @$$. Reach out to other guys, and I know this is cheesy, but try to get to know different people who werent in your group before. You never know, just because they're a little low in social status doesn't mean you have to ignore him. And that guy you keep going after? If he doesn't like you, then he doesn't like you. He may see you differently in a couple of years, but until then, I would search somewhere else. If he doesnt' know what he's missing, then that's his loss. Sorry, if I sound harsh, I just hate to see smart girls get rejected by dumb guys.
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Post by Athena on Nov 9, 2003 10:21:16 GMT -5
Well, pixie, my advice would be to take notice of other guys. You never know, the perfecet BF could be right under your nose, and you wouldn't even know it because of this jerk who just wants a piece of @$$. Reach out to other guys, and I know this is cheesy, but try to get to know different people who werent in your group before. You never know, just because they're a little low in social status doesn't mean you have to ignore him. And that guy you keep going after? If he doesn't like you, then he doesn't like you. He may see you differently in a couple of years, but until then, I would search somewhere else. If he doesnt' know what he's missing, then that's his loss. Sorry, if I sound harsh, I just hate to see smart girls get rejected by dumb guys. Stupid aliens have to go and warp guy's little brains. Well, what brain they have anyway, Yeah, Pixie, try and find some other guys to hang out iwth. The good thing about band is that there are tons of guys and long hours spent with them.
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Post by pixiediva24 on Nov 9, 2003 17:22:42 GMT -5
OMG..you two are the best...I don't know what I'd do with out your advice.I'm so glade that this forum fell in to my comp. . I'm going to be a very famous singer and when I hit it big you guys can get VIP treatment and visit me...kk. Ok back to the topic lol.I am moving on, but very slowly and am noticing lots of guys. It's just seeing as how I'm only 16 I have plenty of time to search these seas. Early this year I met this kid his name is Frank and he live in PA, that's a while from Mi. And I don't know if what I feel is true b/c of the distance. I've been talking to some of his friends and they are GREAT! His friend Dave and are have been talking a lot. So I think I'll be over this guy from school soon.I just have to stop carrying his stuff for him and just be friends. Enough with trying to be more than friends. I don't think being single for a while longer will hurt me too much.. ;D
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Post by Athena on Nov 9, 2003 19:22:14 GMT -5
OMG..you two are the best...I don't know what I'd do with out your advice.I'm so glade that this forum fell in to my comp. . I'm going to be a very famous singer and when I hit it big you guys can get VIP treatment and visit me...kk. Ok back to the topic lol.I am moving on, but very slowly and am noticing lots of guys. It's just seeing as how I'm only 16 I have plenty of time to search these seas. Early this year I met this kid his name is Frank and he live in PA, that's a while from Mi. And I don't know if what I feel is true b/c of the distance. I've been talking to some of his friends and they are GREAT! His friend Dave and are have been talking a lot. So I think I'll be over this guy from school soon.I just have to stop carrying his stuff for him and just be friends. Enough with trying to be more than friends. I don't think being single for a while longer will hurt me too much.. ;D I expect bubble baths and lots of chocolates, and don't you forget it! It's good you are moving on. If a guy only wants to be with you so that you can carry your stuff for him, thats not a relationship. Good for you that you are noticing other guys. Distance hardly matter's nowadays what with the internet and all. And your right, sometimes being single is fun
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Post by Summer Sparrow on Nov 9, 2003 23:06:32 GMT -5
You know what I've learned through out these years? That you dont need to go far to look for love, love will come and find you, and almost always it's right under your nose
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Post by ~Kawaii~ on Nov 10, 2003 13:07:22 GMT -5
Summer that is so true!
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Post by Athena on Nov 10, 2003 16:37:02 GMT -5
You know what I've learned through out these years? That you dont need to go far to look for love, love will come and find you, and almost always it's right under your nose I think Summer is sniffing the donuts again ;D
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Post by pixiediva24 on Nov 10, 2003 18:05:52 GMT -5
All soo true...I still want to be his friend tho....and nothing mare...For the time being. ;D
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